Thoughts on Patience and Support

Posted on March 10, 2013 by Kate F.

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It was a hard day.

I got up at 5:30 a.m., showered, greeted a babysitter at 7, attended a meeting, went to a doctor’s appointment, returned home in just enough time to get the kids off to school and my toddler in the car in order to dash off to his weekly speech session.

I then proceeded to rush home for lunch, unsuccessfully attempt to get said toddler down for a nap, so I could (in turn) participate in back-to-back work-related phone conferences.

In the midst of trying to maintain my afternoon meeting:

  • My recently potty trained son needed to go the the bathroom three times
  • My dog puked all over the mudroom
  • My 3-year-old (you know, the one who chose NOT to nap) proceeded to quite suddenly adjust the television volume up full blast – causing me to jump at my office desk, spill my water and nearly scream in unexpected surprise during the phone conference I was attempting to participate in.

Needless to say, my afternoon meetings were cut short.

As my kids arrived home from school I quickly cleaned up the dog puke while facilitating homework amongst one cranky, tired toddler who was minus one much needed nap.

Normally, after a day like this my patience and nerves would be fried. Yet on this day, somewhere amongst all the frantic chaos and building exhaustion I managed to find a long overdue pocket of patience. Clinging to this very fragile bubble of patience, I turned to my 10-year-old in desperate need of a little support – anyone’s support!

“Honey,” I began (with a tone of self pity). “You know those days when you come home from school and have piano lessons followed by soccer practice and somewhere in between have to find time to fit in homework too?” (Admittedly, we try to cut down on days like those, but they still happen…)

She nodded in clear remembrance of these occasional days of back-to-back madness.

“Well, that is the type of day I am having today. It’s been rough one.” I concluded (remembering to force a smile so as not to have her worry too much).

Maybe I shouldn’t have opened up to her, but I needed to verbalize my stress. I needed understanding, compassion and an ear to listen (if only for a second) to my mounting frustrations. Her eyes recognized my distress and she responded by returning a smile my way. For just a split-second we shared this unique bond – the connection from a common experience of dealing with hard days.

That was all I needed. Someone to smile, to sympathize and to understand.

I wonder if she knows how much her smile of support meant to me? It’s amazing what just a little support will do to carry you through a rough day.

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I grabbed a quick bite to eat before leaving to drive my middle son to music followed by two more back-to-back meetings and knew without a doubt that I would survive.

It felt good.

It felt good to feel supported and remain somewhat in control of a day that could have very easily become unmanageable and have tumbled to shambles. It was a hard day – made bearable by a small, often hidden pocket of patience and just a little support.

I think I may try to chose patience and support more often. It certainly beats the alternative…

Leave a Comment: Do you talk to your children about your struggles when you’re having a hard day?

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Dissecting an “Off” Day

Posted on March 4, 2013 by Kate F.

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We looked at each other. Terror filled our eyes, yet oddly, we both still felt the strength of two women ready to fight. our way. OUT.

Knowing our last hour of life could quite possibly be near, my heart beat fast and loud as I tried to calmly review my options. I turned from my friend and then to our captor whose face was that of a everyday, unrecognizable madman.

I was trapped.
Kidnapped. Held hostage by… who? I didn’t know.
(It all had happened so fast.)

And now, here we were, my friend and I – stuck in this tiny box-of-a-room by a mad man who still wasn’t aware we had recognized his devious plan.

I slowly stepped back, trying not to let the panic outweigh my natural instincts.

I spied the small (but still large enough) window to my right. Do I dare?

Quickly, making my choice, I casually and silently edged opened the window, slipped out of its tight opening, leaving my friend behind and … RAN. As fast I could – down the dark and desolate street. AWAY.

Until suddenly
I was stopped
by distant words.

“Kate. Honey? Are you going to get up?” said the gentle voice of my husband.

A dream. It had all been … a dream? Well, more like a nightmare straight out of an opening scene of CSI (which coincidentally I had been watching the previous night prior to going to bed). It felt so real though.

And I knew
without a doubt
that I was not ready for the day ahead.

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Last Wednesday, I straggled through my day – tired, cranky, low on patience, and feeling as if I was doing 10 million things yet accomplishing absolutely nothing. However, I couldn’t quite pin-point why my whole day felt off.

Again and again, I tried writing my weekly blog post here and nothing came to me. Everything I typed sounded inauthentic.

Finally, as the day inched towards its end, I chose to leave the noise of my husband, my kids and American Idol (obnoxiously blaring from the television). With my iPad in hand, I led my tired, cranky self up the stairs to type in the quiet confines of my bedroom.

It was only by sitting in the exact place I had woken up in, that I began to remember the dream I had risen to. And not until that moment did I also realize the impact the dream had on my day.

The imagination – is a powerful thing.

Tell me: Do you ever have a day that just doesn’t feel right, a day where you can’t reconcile what seems off? It’s been a while since I’ve woken to a nightmare. Maybe there really is such a thing as “waking up on the wrong side of the bed”?

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Magic Eraser, I Bid Thee Farewell.

Posted on February 24, 2013 by Kate F.

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Magic Eraser… oh, how I love thee.
Let me count the ways:

  1. Bathtub
  2. Sinks
  3. Faucets
  4. Toilets
  5. Tile Floors
  6. Wood Trim
  7. Shower Walls, Shower Door, Shower Spout
  8. Cabinetry

I could effortlessly go on. In fact, quite possibly I should invest stock in the Mr. Clean Magic Eraser. Heck! I joined Costco merely as a means to easily buy magic erasers in bulk.

As sweat trickled down my forehead, this is the ode I mentally composed in order to help pass my time during my weekly monthly (if I’m lucky) attempt to erase the dirt in our master bathroom.

The Early Day Obsession

When Mr. Clean 1st introduced the Magic Eraser, I couldn’t put it down. I lived in an old 1950′s home with lots of “character” and it was like a game to indeed see what this magical eraser could conquer cleaning next.

  • Permanent Marker? Not permanent any more.
  • Lifelong grimy tile grout? Never again.
  • Irreparable marks (thought to be physical damage) to appliances, cabinetry and walls? Nothing’s to big a job for this amazing tool.

I was mystified. And hooked.

Using my Magic Eraser for the 1st year was almost like my husband’s initial encounter with his power washer. Obsessive.

Over the years I’ve grown accustomed to its miraculous cleaning abilities. My obsession has gradually turned into a mature relationship, with mutual respect for the tool that does the erasing and the eraser herself (a.k.a. me).

There is only one thing I’ve found that the Magic Eraser cannot repair:

My sincere contempt for cleaning our family’s bathrooms.

An Unlikely Solution

“There. Voila!” I finished, immediately slumping down to the floor clutching what was left of my powerful, but physically draining Magic Eraser. With the (long overdue) necessary job finally complete, I sat exhausted just outside the now pristine bathroom.

Maybe if I washed our bathrooms more often than just once-a-month they wouldn’t take this long to clean? However, truth be told, cleaning the bathroom just does not seem a priority most days.

Slowly I rose and (looking as though I had just left the gym) headed downstairs to start dinner. “Maybe I should simply pay someone to clean the bathroom.” I only half jokingly said under my breath (yet aloud) to no-one in particular.

“Really Mom?” Said my 10-year-old who happened to overhear my remark. “I’d do it! How much would you pay me?”

I’m sort-of new at having a “big kid.” Having recently turned 10, there is something very unique and different now about my oldest daughter. She can go from my little girl to seemingly all grown up quicker than my toddler can tear down my son’s Lego creations. It honestly would not have occurred to me that she might be interested in picking up a “part-time job” as our bathroom scrubber.

“How much?” she asked again, interrupting my thoughts.

Bathrooms are HARD work and having just come down from completing the deed, I was in the mindset that I would have paid someone BIG BUCKS to scour what I’d just scrubbed. Wisely though, I thought to reverse the question back at her.

“How much do you think it’s worth?” I responded.

Shyly she looked up at me, not used to negotiating money with her mom. “Well, maybe $10?” she said, her excitement building around the fact that I was taking her seriously.

“Come on! I can do it.” She exclaimed, seeing my hesitation that it would get done and get done well. And then, I noticed her eyes light up with one last question.

“Do I get to use the Magic Eraser?” she enthusiastically inquired.

“Well of course.” I smiled.

“Yes!” she cheered, making a “cha-ching” like move with her right arm. “$10 dollars AND I get to use the Magic Eraser! Bingo!”

Secretly I smiled with pride in that last statement – while composing my farewell ode:

Magic Eraser. Oh, how I love thee.
Let me pass thee on…

However, if the state of her bedroom (and her bedroom desk) is any indication of how the bathroom will be kept cleaned… maybe I shouldn’t hold my breath?

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Leave a Comment. What was your child’s first “paying” job? Anyone else out there a recovering Magic Eraser addict?

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The Busy, On-the-Go Momma’s 3-Step Guide to Maintaining Work-Life Sanity: STEP 3

Posted on February 18, 2013 by Kate F.

Note: The following is the final part of a 3 part series aimed to help better manage a busy parent’s days. The full series includes: Step 1: Prioritize, followed by Step 2: Find Time. If you haven’t read Step 1, please start here.

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I’ve always been a list maker. I used to make lists merely for the satisfaction of being able to cross something off of it. However, since becoming a multitasking momma of three, my lists are way more then just symbolic of my accomplishments. Most times …

I need my lists.

Things get lost if they aren’t on “the list”. Things fall off my plate, roll under the table and are eaten by my dog – never to be thought of again (until someone kindly reminds me of my forgotten task) if a duty inadvertently doesn’t make “the list”.

I’ll admit, sometimes just looking at “the list” can make me panic. And it is during these weeks – the weeks when I am overcome with anxiety and when my to-do lists seems a mile long – where (I’m not going to lie) Step 2: Finding Time in my 3 step guide feels like a joke.

This is about the point when I need to take a step backwards and remember Step 1: Prioritize and only then move forward with Step 3.

Step 3: Locate Solutions within Limits

When a to-do list looks too long, the most important part of this 3 step process is NOT to revert back to the days of sulking and despair and oh-woe-is-me self pity. Well, OK. Maybe take a few hours minutes to sulk – sometimes you need that… BUT, remember that you need to find a solution, and that solutions don’t always need to solve a problem.

That may sound crazy. How do you find a solution without solving the problem? Sometimes, when met with a work-life crisis, a solution is simply to deal with a problem.

  • Look back at Step 1. What are your priorities?
  • Tackle Step 2. Find as much time as possible (which occasionally means tapping into your Flexible/Me time).
  • But remember Step 3 and understand and respect your limits.

Time, although able to be found, cannot be captured and changed. There are only 24 hours in the day to work with (for a good reason).

The best part of this 3-step system is that you’ve already determined your time availability. You know what you are capable of, where your time should be spent, and also that you have priorities.

Don’t. Forget. Your priorities.

Dealing with a Scheduling Overload

This is what I suggest trying to do when a “scheduling emergency” takes place.

1. Utilize “reserve time” and communicate with others.

When you need to access time that you’ve previously earmarked to family or other things – make sure your spouse and family members know this. This may seem obvious, but sometimes in hindsight of course I’ve found that I try to keep my stresses all to myself. When you don’t tell loved ones what you’re going through, there is no possible way for them to understand AND help. Keep everyone in the loop and most times they will bend over backwards to support you. Which leads me to my 2nd tip…

2. Find support.

Find babysitters. Find family. Talk to friends. Locating and finding support is NOT a misuse of time. Support for yourself is vital. The first thing I have a habit of deleting when overwhelmed is “me time”, when in reality, I think this move (which I admittedly make all too often) is counter-productive. You can only effectively survive without feeding your own soul for so long.

In response to my own bad habit of excluding “me time” when overwhelmed with work, I recently decided to begin new group (within the confines of my Mothers’ Center group – a local and national support group for mothers). I worked with 2 other busy mommas to form a group we are calling Executive Mommas. This new group will meet once a month and allow working parents to network and learn from each other, while also getting support through their joys and frustrations of working and mothering – effectively multitasking work with support and me time.

3. Give myself a pass.

When all else fails, allowing yourself a “pass” is the only healthy solution (in my opinion). Save this pass, use it wisely, but use it. Use it and lose the guilt. Because guilt will not help you move forward.

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When the Craziness Subsides

When all said and done, and your scheduling emergency begins to fade, analyze what led to it, try to determine how you can avoid it from reoccurring, but don’t dwell on it. Instead, look ahead. You can’t change the past, you can only learn from it.

  • What did you learn from all the craziness.
  • Does something need to be dropped?

It’s important to recognize if scheduling overloads start to happen too frequently. Sometimes you may have to revisit your priorities and where your time has been allocated. If overload seems to be happening all-too-much then something’s got to go.

So there you have it. My 3-step guide to maintaining better work-life sanity.

Step 1: Prioritize
Step 2: Find Time
Step 3: Locate Solutions within Limits

It’s worked for me. Could it work for you?

Leave a Comment: Are there any other solutions that you have found when dealing with a scheduling overload?

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Next week I’ll be back to the “normally scheduled On-the-Go Momma programming.” Thanks so much for joining me in this series. DON’T FORGET: the best way to keep up with each new post is to have it delivered directly to your email inbox by clicking here!

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Gray Hairs – A Valentine’s Day Letter

Posted on February 13, 2013 by Kate F.

*I wrote this quickly (as you’ll see) but wanted to share, because sometimes it is important to share.

To my husband:

Today, I looked in the mirror and found one more gray hair.

Which caused me to pause, and desperately try to remind myself that aging is okay. *sigh*
Which caused me to pause further, and look at where I’m at and where I’ve come from in life.

Which in turn, caused me to think of you.

So here I am, sitting in our kitchen the day before Valentine’s day, frantically typing on my iPad,

swaddled up in my ugly (yet very snuggly) gray bathrobe,
crowned by a purple bath towel wrapped around my recently washed hair,
diligently trying to ignore both the LOUD buzz of the washing machine and our toddler (who sits cuddled within our unmade bed watching cartoons – certainly indicative of a less-than perfect mothering diversion tactic)

I am intentionally ignoring them because I felt this desire to sit (at this moment) and write to you (at this moment) because it seems a priority tell you how much I appreciate your support.

I used to think that marriage was about love, and children, and passion, and romance, and sometimes challenges, and sometimes struggles…

And it’s true, marriage is all these things.
But lately, I’ve concluded that marriage is also about support.

Support when I’m doing too many things.
Support when I’m struggling with my priorities.
Support when I am successful at something or have reason to celebrate.
Support when I make a decision (even if you don’t agree with it).
Support when I’m tired, or sick, or tired and sick.
Support even when I complain. Or am grumpy. Or sad. Or nervous.

And also,
support on days like today,
the days when I find a gray hair.

Aging – it not only changes the color of my hair, but also my perspective.

Thank you for your love, our children, your passion, our romance, your willingness to work through the challenges and struggles, but most of all for your support.

Happy  Valentine’s  Day.

(Okay. Gotta go. Micky Mouse is over, the laundry needs changed, my hair needs dried, and … well you know the drill… time to go fight the gray hairs.)

Love always,
Your wife

BeMineYa know… just to prove that the bed got made, my hair got dried, and the toddler didn’t get ignored for too long.

Leave a Comment: Who provides you with support through the good and the bad?

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P.S. To readers other than my husband… Don’t worry! Monday I will continue and conclude my series: A 3 Step Guide to Maintaining Work-Life Sanity. This was just a necessary interruption :)

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The Busy, On-the-Go Momma’s 3-Step Guide to Maintaining Work-Life Sanity: STEP 2

Posted on February 10, 2013 by Kate F.

Note: The following is the 2nd part of a 3 part series aimed to help better manage a busy parent’s days. The full series includes Step 1: Prioritize, and ends with Step 3: Locate Solutions within Limits (soon to be published). If you haven’t read Step 1, please start here.

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Hello? Time? … Where are you?

Peak-a-boo! Are you hiding under my cluttered desk?
Knock, knock! Did you lock yourself in the basement with the Wii?
I know! You must be in my bed! (Because lord knows I haven’t been in there long enough to attempt a good, solid search.)

You can’t fool me “Mr. Time,” I know you’re out there.

As a parent, you might often think of hide-and-seek as a game we play with our kids. But personally speaking, most of the time I think of it as a game I play with time. You can’t capture time, but I do think with a little prioritizing time can be found.

In my last post I talked about Step 1 in my 3-step process to gain back more work-life sanity. This 1st step – to prioritize – focused on listing personal goals of where I’d ideally like to most spend my time.

However, truth be told, establishing priorities and acting on these priorities are two separate things, which in turn led me to Step 2 and my next course of action:

Figuring out how to find the time to fit my newly accepted priorities into my life.

Step 2: Find Time

Some people (unfortunately I am not yet one of them) plan their family’s weekly meals in order to not be scrambling to feed everyone at the last minute. I may not plan my weekly meals, but I do a similar thing with my own daily schedule.

I’ve come to believe it TAKES time to FIND time.

Lately I’ve made it a priority on Sundays to invest 20-30 minutes planning out my week both personally and professionally.

First, write your to-do list.

I spend 10 minutes writing a list of everything I ideally would like to get done over the week in regards to work. Note: This should include volunteer, paid, and/or any significant household work.

To-Do-ListJust a snip-it of how my list looks. I actually type it out on my Notes Application
which syncs between my iPhone, iPad and Mac so I will never be without my to-do list.

Next, determine your time parameters.

I divide my days into chunks to help me determine when my time could be best put to use. I spend about 5 minutes determining family time and available work time.

I suggest dividing your time into 4 categories:

  • Family Time (time where my family’s needs have to be prioritized)
  • Available Work Time (time to use toward volunteer, paid, and/or household work)
  • Non-Flexible Time (time during the week where I have things scheduled that are not flexible.)
  • Flexible/Me Time* (time that I don’t like to work)

* Ideally there would be no work over these periods established as flexible/overflow time. But it is really nice to know that there is time banked for weeks that are a little busier. HOWEVER I find it is important to keep reminding myself that these times should be last resorts!

For me, these categories looks like this:

Family Time
Monday – Friday 7:30 – 8:30 a.m. (before school)
Monday – Thursday 3:45 – 8:00 p.m. (after school thru bedtime)
Tuesday and Wednesday 8:30 – 12:30 (dedicated time spent with my toddler still at home)

Available Work Time
Monday – Friday 5:30 – 7:30 a.m. (I am an early riser)
Monday 8 – 11 a.m. (weekly babysitter lined up)
Monday – Thursday 12:30 – 3:45 (afternoon nap for my toddler)

Non – Flexible Time
Monday 11-1 (Toddler Music class) (New On-the-Go-Momma post goes live)
Tuesday 12:45 – 2 (weekly work staff meeting via phone)
Thursday 9 – 11:30 a.m. (Local Mothers’ Center meeting) (New Mothers Central post goes live)
Friday 8 – 2 (babysitter comes, I teach at a local community college)

Flexible/Me Time
Weekends
Evenings (after 8 p.m.)

Finally, formulate your plan.

I purchased a day-of-the-week dry erase board and different colored dry erase markers.

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I spend typically 10 minutes adding my to-do list onto my dry erase calendar. This allows me to determine when (and if!) I can fit everything into the week.

Red = Things to do in the A.M.
Green = Things to do in the P.M.
Black (w/a box around them) = Things that are non-flexibal
Blue = Things that may need to use my flexible/me time

As I write items on the dry erase board schedule, I always refer back to my “family time schedule” and know that the activities I add on the board cannot co-exist with or cross over to that time.

This is what my office wall with my new work-life organization tactic looks like.

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It may look chaotic, however it is most certainly organized chaos. As a busy parent, I’ll take organized chaos over crazy chaos any day. Regardless, this system really works for me.

Why?

  • It gives me assurance that everything has a time and place to get done.
  • It helps ward off the panic I sometimes feel when my to-do list seems overwhelmingly long.
  • It forces me to remember the time I’ve scheduled to dedicate to my family and myself.

MOST IMPORTANTLY: I no longer feel as though I am aimlessly searching for “Mr. Time” in an unfair game of hide-and-seek. I know where time is for the busy week ahead.

As I complete items on the calendar, I erase them. If they don’t get erased, at least I know they weren’t accomplished. Which leads me to one last very important detail:

Sometimes… not everything can be completed
and/or fits into the open times.

Sometimes there really ISN’T a time and place for everything to get done. What do I do then? I’ll address this in my last step of this guide.

My final post in this series will discuss Step 3: Locating Solutions within Limits.

Leave a Comment: What do you think? Does this seem doable? Oh, and please, please, PLEASE tell me I’m not the only one who gets panicked when my to-do list seems overwhelmingly long?

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The Busy, On-the-Go Momma’s 3-Step Guide to Maintaining Work-Life Sanity: STEP 1

Posted on February 3, 2013 by Kate F.

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As a parent 99.9% of the time – balance doesn’t exist.

Something always drops.

  • Effective week at work? Home looks buried in a mess.
  • House miraculously spit-spot? Family life suffered as you cleaned.
  • Plentiful family bonding time? Often leads to an overwhelming work week.

Really, how often is: you home clean, your to-do-list cleared, and your family time together abundant – all simultaneously?

NEVER. (Or at least VERY rarely in my experience.)

Work-Life balance (in my mind) is a myth. Occasionally I feel like I can see its hazy shadows appearing in the distant future, however usually (just as quickly as it appears) it slips out of sight. I’ve begun to believe that finding a lasting balance just isn’t possible.

But prioritizing… well that’s another matter, and something a little more controllable. And prioritizing is the 1st step I needed to take in order reclaim my own work-life sanity.

Step 1: Prioritize

Often as a busy parent, I loose myself in the act of merely surviving my day – putting one step painstakingly in front of the other – day after day after monotonous day. Time to look ahead never seems to be available, however one always manages to find the time to look back at what went wrong.

Why is it that we allow ourselves so much time to focus on past mistakes, when we should be using these precious moments to instead look at something we can actually change in the future?

A couple weeks ago I had a moment. A < I-can-barely-pull-my-head-out-of-the-toy-cluttered floors, my-paper-filled-office-desk and my-endless-hours-of-chauffeuring-services > moment.

When (after a couple days of sulking and despair and oh-woe-is-me self pity) it hit me.

BAM!

Somewhere along the way I forgot about priorities.

I had been reflecting and not prioritizing, panicking and not planning, putting one foot in front of the other and not taking the time I needed to look towards the next mile marker along the road I was dangerously, blindly traveling.

I came to the conclusion that the first step to a better mix between my work and my life began with:

Re-focusing on my priorities.

So I started to mentally list and envision my own ideal goals.
I asked myself the question: In a perfect “balanced” life – what should my time reflect?

This is what I came up with.

  1. Be able to fully separate family time from work time
  2. Be available for my kids before and after school (ie. when they are home)
  3. Have a distinct time and conscious plan to effectively complete my paid and volunteer work
  4. Make a conscious, planned effort to do something for myself (beyond just my work and my family)

This was the beginning of my plan to take back my sunken sanity.

STEP 1: Prioritize. Think about, envision and determine my work-life priorities.

Next up, Step 2: Finding Time – because establishing priorities and acting on these priorities are beyond a doubt TWO SEPARATE THINGS.

Leave a Comment: Do you spend most of your time merely attempting to get through your busy day? If you were to list your own work-life priorities what would they be?

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I frequently hear myself saying: “If only I had just a little more time.”

Time can easily escape me (especially since becoming a parent), and often I feel as though my life reflects a circus juggling act of work, family and whatever other balls happen to be tossed in.

Recently I’ve discover that by investing only 15-30 additional minutes each week, I am able to constantly “find more time” in my busy week. The post you just read is the 1st of 3 steps I use to help better manage my busy days. The full series will include: Step 2: Find Time and Step 3: Locate Solutions Within Limits (both soon to be published).

Maybe my 3-step solution can help you too?

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Where Am I?

Posted on February 1, 2013 by Kate F.

I looked down to notice the tag of my underwear sticking out.

I know, TMI. BUT…

Putting my underwear on inside out and backwards is really only the icing on the cake of how balance seems to be teetering lately in my life.

Where am I?
Over the last week – not here.

I had a Friday “Busy Week” post begun last week.

It started like this:

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And ended like this.

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Yes, I actually did snap a shot and write
“Taking a Weekend Break” on it.

Honestly, we all need a break sometimes. And because of that, I never hit publish on a post that was really only half done.

The fact of the matter is…

I’m still not back. Because today, you can find me here sharing a story about my own unexpected mess with Adrienne at The Mommy Mess.

The Mommy Mess

What are your biggest challenges as a parent? Do your children break-up and make-up faster than you can even distinguish the original problem? How do you keep yourself positive as a parent when often feeling like the bad guy?

These are the questions I aim to answer in my story of a recent family movie night gone bad.

I hope you will visit me over there!

And maybe … I’ll come back over here soon too. (I plan to! Promise! Fingers crossed for Monday!)

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If you are stopping by to visit me from my post at The Mommy Mess:

WELCOME!

  • Learn more about me here
  • Check out some of my favorite posts here
  • Or visit me at Mothers Central were I also blog as part of my work as a staff member of the National Association of Mothers’ Centers.

And let me entertain you as I talk about my busy, on-the-go life in motherhood and so much more!

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Furby Knows Best: The Real Story of Why I Became a Furby Fan

Posted on January 20, 2013 by Kate F.

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SURPRISE! On December 25th we welcomed the newest member to our household – a purple furry creature best known as Furby.

Furby

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Technically, I was forewarned of Furby’s arrival…

(One of many early November phone conversations between my mother and I)

Mom: Have you ever heard of Furby?
Me: Umm… it sounds familiar, not sure. What is it?

Mom: It is this cute little fuzzy creature with big ears that talks furbish.
Me: {Silence…}

Mom: AND there is an app that you can get to feed it!
Me: {increasingly awkward silence…  a.k.a. No response}

Mom: So anyway, I am getting it for your sister’s kids and I think your kids will love it too.
Me: {knowing it is discussion-less} Ohh-kay… interesting?

Admittedly, I don’t think I really got what this Furby-thing-of-a-bob was.
(I mean, would you from that conversation?)

Our New Needy Friend

After the holidays, it took us a little while to get around to Furby.

However eventually, after the latest Wii Games were played, legos were built and puzzles were pieced together – from the wee corners of my daughter’s cluttered bedroom dresser (where admittedly I tried to hide it) my kids spied the purple furry thing.

The discovery was bound to happened.

On the snowy and cold afternoon of the unavoidable Furby unearthing, I sat writing in my home office when my daughter first approached me. “Mom,” she questioned. “Can you help me open Furby?”

“Sure.” I flatly responded (not particularly sold on his value).

Minutes later my writing was interrupted again by a request for batteries.
Followed by the need for a screw driver to put in the batteries.
Followed by a plea to download the Furby app.

Until finally I gave up on work and gave in to Furby’s overly excessive needs.

Things I discovered about Furby over the past week:
(which others may already know, but which I failed to research prior to our inescapable Furby acquisition)

  • He has no “Off” switch.
  • He has a mean streak.
  • You TOO can learn furbish! (Yes! There’s an app for that!)
  • My 3-year old is consumed with a need to feed Furby (via the iPad app)

The other night, in a successful attempt to divert my 3-year-old from another over-obsessive Furby feeding binge, we decided upon having a “family dance party.”

If you haven’t see Furby bust a beat – he’s got moves.
No joke. (In our case, think Michael Jackson as a purple ball of hair).

It really is hysterical.
I actually found myself softening to the little fuzzball.

After about 45 minutes of giggles, all us “non-Furby-folk” were starting to get a bit tired. It was late evening and my children’s bedtime was looming. So instead of dancing with him we decided to watched him dance.

I’m not certain if he somehow “sensed” our exhaustion (because – at this point – I am willing to believe anything about Furby-the-Great), or if instead he just decided he did not like Maroon 5. Because this is what happened:


Direct video link here.

Apparently my kids hold Furby’s judgement in high regard, because if Furby was ready for bed…

SO. WERE. THEY.

Anyone Anything who can get my kids to bed this quickly, is moved up a notch in my book.
I think I’m officially a Furby Fan.

P.S. Thanks Mom – for the “gentle” Furby push :)

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Where Did the Busy Week Go? {Edition 15}

Posted on January 17, 2013 by Kate F.

Do you find it hard to recall what you do in just a week’s time?

I often do. Even as I look back through my calendar at my busy week to share with you here, I realize how little these few photo memories capture of what I really do.

Yet many of these seemingly insignificant moments might have been lost in my “mommy mind” if it weren’t for these Friday posts. So these are the memories I have conjured up this week.

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The weekend was spent doing a lot of work.
However, we gave ourselves a break in the evening both nights
for fun dinner outings (1 with couples-only / 1 with the full family).

Margarita’s at a nearby Mexican restaurant
+ while-we-wait projects for the kids
= Lots of fun for everyone.

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I love this semester’s new work/life schedule.
Because I don’t teach as many college classes,
I have more flexibility with my home time.

On Monday’s my work day is now broken up by my toddler’s Kindermusik Class.
And this week, while my middle son was at evening basketball practice,
the other two children and I decided to play with our newest family addition…

Furby.
(Hint, hint… I think this may be a larger story for Monday’s post.)

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Tuesday was busy… but better than most.
It can be hard to capture Tuesday via photo
because our business is somewhat dull…

However there are dull moments of fun,
and this photo of our new tooth brush “location” exemplifies that.

“Momma ‘ook! I see ‘ooble!”
(translation: Momma look! I see double)

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I have been trying to give myself more
“non-weekend” time to write for this blog.

And also more time to relax.

So on Wednesday afternoons, my goal is
to write on my iPad, in our comfy chair, while the toddler sleeps.
(Usually my dog joins me – thus the “furry” photo of my blanket-covered legs below.)

Week 1 = Success.
A perfect weekly activity to get me over the mid-week hump.
(Don’t you think?)

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Do you ever dish out “motherly advice” to your children
only to realize (in hindsight)
that you aren’t practicing what you preach?

This Thursday’s Mothers Central Blog was titled:

Taking Our Own “Motherly Advice” – Things
We Tell Our Children That We Often Don’t Do Ourselves

(Please tell me that I am not the only one that does this!)

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Leave a Comment: Now it’s your turn – where did your busy week go? Do you think you manage a good work/life mix? (I definitely find this challenging!)

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