The Birth of a Blog

Fear. You’ve experienced it right?

Fear of the future. Fear of the unknown.  Fear of what others think.

Some fears are a little justifiable such as:

I’m scared that the ONE time I check my phone while driving will be the ONE time I get in an accident. (a.k.a. Murphy’s Law rules my life!)

Some fears are less justifiable such as:

I’m scared I won’t fit in… (Get over it! – that’s what I need to do!)

Yet getting past your fears is hard to do.

The Decision to “Procreate”

Sometimes big decisions are made in a snap. For instance… buying our dog. Occasionally, you don’t realize the full effect of a decision until WAY later in life.

For the record – we love our dog… he is like our first child. >>> Exactly the reason
buying our dog was a snap decision that didn’t really effect us until WAY later in life…
… 3 kids later to be exact!

My decision to blog was quick. But how it will effect my life later is yet to be known. This post here by Missy over at Wonder Friend has me a little concerned about my blogging future…

Mental Preparation

I mulled over my blog idea and daydreamed about blogging.
I researched how to start a blog and brainstormed blog names.
I fell in love with social media. I found other great bloggers. And then…


Really? Can I do this? Will people care to hear what I have to say?

I live an average life. I am an average person. Who wants to read about being “average?”

So I did the next best thing to starting my own blog. I blogged here as a contributing blogger.

Being a contributing blogger is kind of like babysitting as a young teenager.

  • You get paid (very little – but hey, it’s a job!)
  • You get to pretend like you’re a good housekeeper parent writer (but ultimately when your job is over, you go “home” and leave all the maintenance to the real “parent”)

Yet, like babysitting, contributing to a blog mentally prepared me for starting my own blog. And the idea of blogging was beginning to become real.

A Reality Check

So I started to again work towards completing my own blog. This time with a little less fear.

  • I excitedly bought my own domain.
  • I lovingly designed my own graphics
  • I dangerously tweaked my WordPress theme code
    (and then lost every tweak… and then tweaked again! UGH!)

… Until finally, it was ready.

I was so close to the beginning of something. So close to something I had put so much energy into and wanted so badly.

You might compare it to that feeling at the end of a pregnancy. You know? When you’re 9 months pregnant, the baby’s room is ready, the cloths are all on hangers and the only thing you are waiting on is the arrival of your new little one. AND… you are extremely uncomfortable.

You can’t sleep at night.

And the fear has come back again.

The blog looks real. It acts real. I’ve even mentioned to some my intent to blog.
It’s real!
But do I really want this? Do I really want to put myself out there?

Fear. Self Doubt. It sucks.

The Delivery Room

But eventually delivery day needs to come. Too much work heart and soul went into making this space mine to not be able to at least see where this all goes.

Yet I’m scared. And maybe my fear is unjustifiable and I just need to get over it? Eventually, everyone needs to face their fears…

So… that’s what I’m forcing encouraging myself to do.

Hello World. My name is Kate. And I am a New Mom New Blogger.

Me and My Blog

Happy “birth day” to me?

Leave a comment! If you blog, what was your blog “birth day” like? Were you scared? How do you fight fear and self doubt? Everyone has their first day “on the job” right?

I am pouring my heart out. So in honor of my 1st official blog post, I am linking up with Shell at Things I Can’t Say and participating in her “Pour your Hear Out” blog carnival. Check it out! You’ll find some great bloggers there!

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57 Responses to The Birth of a Blog

  1. angela says:

    Hi & wonderful description of what you went through to begin your blog!

    Mine was like this: Wow, my family is getting sick of my kazillion emails about my kids and their pictures and stories of their antics. Hmmm, maybe a blog is a good idea…

    What? You can change the way it looks?

    Hello blogging community, so nice to meet you! (obsessively read blogs)

    I can make money doing this? (still haven’t made that move really)

    So, I applaud the planning and thoughfulness that went into yours, and I can’t wait to see it grow!

  2. Yay you :). Looking forward to reading!!

  3. Amy says:

    Happy Birth Day Kate!

    You planned out everything so well! I just threw mine together at first so I could write down everything I was feeling and doing. It was a total outlet for me, a need. I didn’t care if anyone read it….at first. Now I write because its fun and I am happy when I do it.

    Congratulations on your wonderful blog!
    Amy recently posted..depression

    • Kate says:

      Thank you! Exactly the reason I am writing Amy! Because it’s fun… There are too many “not fun” things that one has to do… this is definitely NOT one of them!

  4. Jessica says:

    It looks great! So nice to see you in your own space.
    Jessica recently posted..Time to Slow Down

  5. Kate says:

    As a new blogger myself (I started in April) I totally know what you’re going through. Eeeek! I love your writing style and am definitely looking forward to reading more 🙂
    This was my very scared and hopeful first post-
    Kate recently posted..Wordless Wednesday- Birthday Edition!

  6. Happy Blog Birthday!! Congratulations on your launch. It looks fantastic and I can’t wait to follow your journey.
    Missy @ Wonder, Friend recently posted..Newsy News

    • Kate says:

      Thanks Missy. Glad you enjoyed my post and left a comment to help me celebrate my “Blog Birth Day”! I had such a fun time ready your post last week that I just HAD to link back to it ;).

  7. Halie says:

    Doubting one’s self is only but a natural reaction to something that is called the unknown, but I’m glad that you took it out and decided to share the small things about you.

    Hope to read more in the future!

    • Kate says:

      Thanks Halie! I agree… the unknown is very scary! But I’m so happy that I decided to take the plunge. Thanks so much for your comment on my very 1st post!

  8. Shell says:

    Congrats on your blog! You put a lot of thought into it.

    My first blog was a way to keep family up to date on our kids, so I just posted pics and didn’t think anything of it. My second(Things I Can’t Say) was started as an online journal, not really as something I thought anyone would ever read. It was a little scary when I first decided I was going to step out and start commenting on others’ blogs and join in and hope someone else read.

    The great thing about the blogging community is that it is so supportive. Welcome to it, girl!
    Shell recently posted..Pour Your Heart Out: Cheating

    • Kate says:

      Thanks so much Shell. I am so excited to finally be here and have a personal blogging voice. I subscribe to your blog and love to read the “Pour Your Heart Out” posts… it occurred to me as I read last weeks posts, what a great place to introduce and start my blog this week! So happy to have found you and your blog via twitter 🙂 I look forward to continuing to read your posts on my Google Reader!

  9. wendy says:

    Welcome to the blogging world officially! My decision to blog was much like the first commenter. I do however wonder if the purpose will change as my children age and the cute things they say turn int teenaged eye rolls!
    wendy recently posted..A new baby in the house

    • Kate says:

      NOT looking forward to “teenaged rolled eyes” at all! And that time seems to be getting closer and closer. I am sure my blog content will change… but one thing I am certain on is that I will still be on-the-go… I think… well… I guess nothing is ever for certain! 😉

  10. I love your design – very eye catching and that’s so important! This is actually my second blog – if you want a history of Literal Mom, here’s a link.

    Glad to have found you through Pour Your Heart Out. I’m one of your new followers. 🙂
    Missy | The Literal Mom recently posted..Through the Window

    • Kate says:

      Glad you found me too! Ha! Ha! TOO funny that you also compared your blog to a “birth!” I loved your history page… thanks for sharing!

  11. Anastasia says:

    Wow, you did a lot more research then I did. I wish I had because I had to learn as I go.
    Anastasia recently posted..An Open Letter to Facebook Haters-PYHO

    • Kate says:

      Really all the research and I am STILL in a learning curve … sometimes my “research” is more of a pain than a positive! It took me FOREVER to get this page up! So glad you enjoyed my 1st post!

  12. MommaKiss says:

    What a great introduction! The question of my ‘first’ is hard for me. I mean, I did an online journal open to the public when I was getting married, then when I was having a kid, then just in general after that…but I started on blogger in 2008. March of 2008. I can honestly say I wasn’t nervous – but truly was looking for others who were ‘like’ me and that community is awesome.
    MommaKiss recently posted..WTF WW 7.6.11

    • Kate says:

      I think sometimes I get too nervous… I wish I had your nerves of steel 😉 But the fact that I still do it – even when I’m sweating and nervous – that makes me proud… because nerves are NOT fun to deal with! Thanks so much for your comment. Really enjoyed checking out your blog too!

  13. Victoria says:

    Welcome to the blogging community! I am fairly new to blogging as well. Started blogging in May. I originally started it as a way to deal with everything that was going on in my life. From the kids, to the SO. My first post is actually about my father (he passed in April) and writing it down seemed to help me at the time.

    Now I love it and I’ve met some amazing people! Excited to follow you on your blog:)
    Victoria recently posted..10 Days of Bullshit Challenge–Day 6

    • Kate says:

      Thanks for the welcome Victoria. I went back and read your first post. So touching… thanks for sharing. I hope to see you around both on this blog and twitter (just followed you 🙂 ! ) Thanks for the comment.

  14. Sara says:

    So excited for you, Kate!! I’m sure it will be great!! I haven’t launched my blog (as part of my little decorating business I’m going to start) yet…am still in the research phase for the whole endeavor, but it was so fun to read about your process!!

    • Kate says:

      Thank you Sara! So glad you enjoyed! You know I’ll always be there to help you out if you need me to when you get your blog started 🙂

  15. Mrs. Jen B says:

    Good for you! Welcome!

    I did things in reverse. I jumped into blogging on Blogger just because I really wanted to write and liked the idea of others reading it. Then I discovered Blogging (not to be confused with the blogging I was already doing, which amounted to not much more than an online journal) and started meeting people and becoming more serious. THEN I purchased a domain and moved to WordPress and such.

    Great to meet you!
    Mrs. Jen B recently posted..My Best Frenemy

    • Kate says:

      Love hearing other stories! Thanks for sharing yours. Had a great time checking out your “Frenemy” post! Added you to my Google RSS Reader!

  16. Kara says:

    Looks great! Congrats big sis!

  17. Kelly says:

    You did it!!! So proud of you! Congratulations!

  18. Congratulations and Welcome! I began my blog after retiring December 2011 not having a clue as to what I was doing!!! 🙂 It is a work in progress! So just jump in and let it take you where it takes you…it will always be an adventure!

  19. Nicolette says:

    Awesome post! Congrats on the blog. I’m jealous that you started in WordPress. I started a few months ago in blogger and wish I had gone the other way. I’m now following. Looking forward to sharing your journey.

    • Kate says:

      Thanks Nicholette! I tossed around Blogger vs WordPress and was lucky enough to land my contributing blogger job which started in Blogger and transferred to WordPress… nothing like learning the difference between the two first hand! Good luck! Thanks for following!

  20. I think you’re so smart to have started this way. I am completely the opposite; I started and learned as I went along, making loads of mistakes along the way!

    • Kate says:

      Oh, I am fairly certain that I still have a steep learning curve 🙂 – With loads of mistakes to still be made. In contrast, I do feel really happy to have had my experience contributing to a blog prior to launching my own, and even to have been out on twitter for 1/2 a year prior to building up my knowledge and relationships out there. Hindsight is always 20/20. Thanks so much for your comment!

  21. Tracy says:

    Yaay! Congratulations! I just started blogging in March, and it’s awesome to have your own space to vent, laugh, cry, rant, cheer and just babble. Looks great.

  22. Kristin @ What She Said
    Twitter: SaidKristin

    Visiting from PYHO and just wanted to say AWESOME POST! My 1-year blogoversary is coming up next month (yikes – 1st birthday party!) and I found myself laughing and nodding along with so much of what you said. I mulled over my decision to start a blog for a long time. I questioned whether I would have the time to write and maintain it. I wondered if anyone would read it. I wondered it getting other people to read it would mean reading and commenting on OTHER blogs… and if I’d have time for THAT. I questioned if I was really up for this. I tried writing in a leather-bound journal to satiate my need to word vomit- it didn’t work.

    And then one night, I just up and started a blog! And I’ve pretty much been winging it ever since. All the things I feared and wondered about have come to pass – I often DON’T have time to write or maintain or read or comment, but I somehow make it a priority anyway. I’ve suffered bloggy burnout (several times). I’ve made the switch from Blogger to WP and gone through a site design. I’ve learned a great deal about blogging and social media. I’ve made some new bloggy friends and grown my readership. And it’s been a blast. All of it. I just take it day by day and try not to let the fear take over.
    Kristin @ What She Said recently posted..Judgment Day

    • Kristin @ What She Said
      Twitter: SaidKristin

      P.S. sorry about the novel-length comment. I hate being THAT commenter. 🙁
      Kristin @ What She Said recently posted..Judgment Day

      • Kate says:

        Thanks Krisin. I love to hear all the other “blog birth” stories. Thanks for sharing yours here! Also love your advice to take it day-by-day. Great, solid advice that I needed to hear.

        P.S. I personally LOVE the “novel-length” comments 🙂

        P.S.S. Also love your blog! Just subscribed via my Google Reader!

  23. Renee says:

    Welcome to the blogosphere! I blogged for a few years before I went public. I was terrified to put myself out there! But, it has been a great experience thus far.

    You’ve started out with a great post! I look forward to more to come:)

    • Kate says:

      Thanks Renee! I appreciate the welcome and look forward to finding the time 🙂 to post more! I am determined not to let my three kiddos get in the way of that… easier said than done though! And congrats on your new baby (I was checking out your blog!)… she is beautiful!

  24. Tatum B. says:

    Your a natural Kate! Can’t wait to read more 🙂

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  26. maddie says:

    Congratulations on starting a blog! Don’t look at your statistics and just write. People will come. I pretty sure people will like you and that’s what it really comes down to. Just being you. I started my blog two months ago and am surprised with the number of readers I have. I think you will be surprised too.

    Best of luck,
    maddie recently posted..mommies – the battle hardened insomniacs

    • Kate says:

      Thanks so much Maddie! Good luck with your new blog >>> Loved your About Me page (LOL at the poop on the floor, don’t eat it comment!) Thanks for checking out my post. Look forward to seeing you on Twitter!

  27. Kim says:

    This is a fantastic analogy and so well-written! I love the link to Missy’s Story of Us. So many thought-provoking ideas here Kate. I think you are an artist by the look of your blog, both in writing and art 🙂 I am so thrilled to find a great blog to read 🙂
    Kim recently posted..Blogging Series Day 1: First Posts

    • Kate says:

      So glad you enjoyed and stopped by to check out my blog “birth story.” I have really enjoyed keeping up with your blog. I’m trying to recall how I stumbled upon it… are you part of a linked in “Mommy Blogs” group? Can’t quite put my finger on it, but glad to have found you. Hope you’ll continue to check in here 🙂 I have you on my RSS Feeder (a.k.a. the only type of reading I get to do around here anymore LOL!)

  28. Hi….came across your blog from Not So Silent Mommy. Love the way you write! I’m pretty new at blogging myself and took awhile to start also, thinking of a blog name, design, etc. Came up with the name, decided to use a template for now just to get started and the rest will evolve in time. I really enjoy it…especially coming across great blogs like yours! So I’m your latest follower and look forward to reading more. You can visit me over at when you get the time 🙂

    • Kate says:

      Thank you for checking my new blog out! So glad you enjoy my writing! I visited your blog and was laughing SO hard at your post on cleaning 🙂 Ha! I also subscribed to your blog via my Google RSS reader and look forward to keeping up on your posts! Glad to have found you and thanks for your comment. I try to post every Wednesday or more! (I also Blog weekly at which keeps me VERY busy – well that and my 3 kids! Lol)

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