You always want what you don’t have.
And that’s why I have goals. It helps me to accomplish and acquire the things that I really want out of life.
Goals. They often make me reach for things that I might not normally have reached for. And I find that it’s important to remember that it’s not always about meeting a goal, but about setting high standards and reaching as high as you can.
I realized something the other day, and I’m going to let you in on a little secret – a secret that took me years to learn.
A goal is the same thing as a dream. (At least it should be in my opinion.)
Did you get that?
Because it’s true!
When I was little I used to dream about ideas that seemed far-fetched and ridiculous to me:
- I dreamed about living overseas or maybe even on the sea. (You know like Zack and Cody?) If you don’t get that reference good for you! I envy you… and I blame my oldest daughter!
- I dreamed about working in a big city. (I imagined traveling via train, with brief case in one hand and a coffee in the other!)
- And, in general, I hoped to work in a field where I traveled extensively. (Exploring city after city as a high powered working woman!)
The funny thing is, right now, any more, these dreams don’t sound too far-fetched and ridiculous. In fact, they sound doable and in most cases already done.
Yet as a girl growing up in a smaller town… they sounded SO impossible!
And in hind sight, this is what has taught me to always aim high. Because the ONLY difference between a dream and a goal – is your own belief that it can or cannot happen.
The Pride of Stepping out of Your Comfort Zone
And here’s another secret that you may or may not already know… dreams and goals… they are allowed to change! No really – they are! (That’s me still trying to fully convince myself of this!)
As you grow, as you change, so should your dreams. Right?
And I tell you this secret because one day, I had new a dream… and it caught me off guard.
To begin blogging.
Aim high! (I always have.) Keep your goals big. (So I do.) And when life starts to take a toll on you – pay that toll…
So I did.
In an effort to reach high in my goals, I decided to pay toll after toll (after toll!) and visit Chicago for my first blogging conference (Bloggy Boot Camp hosted by the SITSGirls).
And, after I made my decision to attend this conference, I had so much pride in my decision.
I felt empowered that I had let myself make this decision.
I had stepped out of my comfort zone. (The cozy zone where I was Chief Executive Officer of three squirrelly kids and a husband, with a household full of duties – the goal I had chased after and aimed high now for years!)
I had pride because I had made a commitment to my new goal.
Traveling to a faraway city,
for a conference on something I JUST started doing,
with people I have never met…
This was a giant leap of faith and an enormous step out of my own comfort zone.
Yet I did it. I experienced it. And I was proud of myself – because there’s nothing better than knowing you did something that was out of your comfort zone and did it well. (And there’s nothing worse than saying “what if?” when you would-a, could-a, should-a tried something!)
The Grass is Always Greener…
I learned so much in my three days away. No kids, no husband… A lofty and great goal in itself for many-a-mom. A dream in fact for many-a-mom.
Yet, as new dreams blossom, it is sometimes hard to give yourself permission to let go or find room for the older dreams. Dreams you still have. But their newness has worn off.
So here is where this dreamer struggles:
As new goals enter, do old goals become less important?
How does one find balance as one obtains new goals?
AND what does one do when there are multiple goals of similar importance?
And I struggled. Because the grass is always greener on the other side.
Because my biggest life goal was being a mother and wife. And it felt swept aside and unattended to.
NOT because my husband couldn’t handle our three squirrelly kids. NOT because I hadn’t called and texted to make sure all was well when I was absent. And certainly NOT because I felt I was a bad mother.
My other goal felt unattended to because I missed it. I missed them.
I missed their whining in the morning. I missed their snuggles in the evening. I missed their constant interruptions and their loving, attention-longing eyes.
And in returning from my conference for my NEW dream, I’ve learned 1 big lesson:
Goals, dreams… these are good to have.
But even more important is balance.
A new Dream for a Struggling Dreamer
So now I have another new dream… a new goal. To better balance my blogging AND my family time. (And once I set a goal I strive high!?!)
I stand firm that I may only post once a week on my personal blog. Want to talk with me more? Check me out on Facebook. Or hook up with me on Twitter. Because the most important goal… my most significant dream – is finding a balance.
I know dreams change. Maybe tomorrow I’ll want OUT of the house! Maybe tomorrow, I will need more “me” time. Maybe tomorrow, I may decide to do another blog post and break out of my once-a-week mold.
But for today – I dream of more time with my family… because:
You always want what you don’t have.
I would love to hear your thoughts! How do you work to find balance in your life?
From Left to Right/Top to Bottom: 1.) “Blind Date” dinner the evening before BBCCHI with other Bloggers. 2.) My 3 Children
3.) Hotel Bus to BW3′s after LONG day at BBCCHI Conference. 4.) My mom & sister who keep me company on my travels (Thank goodness!) 5.) The Women of #TTLTRIBE 6.) My sister and I in downtown Chicago for brunch before we returned back to Ohio.
I am linking up to Mamakat’s weekly writing prompt #4:
Write a post that begins and ends with the same sentence.