Guess what?…it was beautiful outside today.
Yep, a beautiful day.
Ab-so-lute-ly gorgeous outside.
And the real clincher – I felt relaxed.
And that, unto itself is quite a statement. Because often I have a hard time remembering what relaxation feels like since many times there are such long intervals between my own exposure to it.
And this last interval between points of relaxation, this last stretch was…
Yet today, today it was beautiful outside. And I remembered how to relax again.
But the weekend didn’t start out that way.
3 Days Earlier.
Nope. The weekend didn’t start that way AT ALL.
The weekend began in defeat.
I felt unaccomplished. Overwhelmed. And undone.
I was stressed, frustrated, and about ready to throw in the towel…
I was, in fact, at my wits end…
until I realized something…
Something that changed my entire outlook and helped me to refocus my weekend.
And I want to shout it from a mountain for others to hear!
(Except I know that one has to be at a point to want to hear what I am going to say, because I’ve been told this very thing before and I just Never. Really. Listened.)
But because I know sometimes it takes multiple exposures to learn a life lesson, here it is:
You can’t always be everything to everyone.
(Did you get that? Here, let me say it again, a little louder, because I like to repeat important things.)
You can’t always be everything to everyone!
(Now did you hear me?)
This was my most recent weekend revelation. (A life lesson a long time coming!)
You can’t always be everything to everyone. But for some reason…
I keep trying.
Houston. We have a problem.
Have you ever gotten yourself so worked up over something in hindsight that was so very silly?
Something so ridiculous, that if you were to just sit down and put it into perspective – you would realize that it would NOT be a high priority in your life. Have you ever done this?
I have. And I did.
And I feel so fortunate to have friends and family that can talk me down with their sympathetic ears. And also know how to deal with my frantic and sometimes unnecessary
over-the-top reactions to situations that are clearly out of my control.
- My problem? Is that I always want immediate results.
- My problem? Is that I always want to correct a wrong.
- My problem? Not everyone knows that I always mean well and have good intentions. (I swear I do!)
You can’t always be everything to everyone… and I have to recognize that this is OK.
Houston, we have a problem… BUT…
It’s not the end of the world…
Do you hear me? IT’S NOT. THE END. OF THE WORLD!
(Said loudly more for myself than for you, my readers, to hear.)
In the grand scheme of priorities… this thing that happened to be upsetting me (to be blunt) was not really that big of a deal.
Just Get Over It, Will Ya!
And for once I let myself be talked down.
I allowed myself to get over it.
(After a little venting, a couple glasses of wine, some VERY good friends and a husband that continued to let me talk myself down.)
And can I tell you something? It felt GOOD to be OK – no, I mean really OK! – about a problem that in actuality wasn’t ever solved.
A problem that in fact, really doesn’t need to be solved.
A problem that really, in the grand scheme of things, isn’t THAT important.
It felt good. (Because I am not very good at letting things go.)
It felt good. (Because it saved my much needed weekend with my family.)
And today (well, at least on Sunday when I began writing this) I felt RELAXED.
Priorities. Yet another life lesson
which at some point I will probably need to revisit again eventually that I have under my belt.
And it is all because for one brief moment, I came to the realization that you just can’t always be everything to everyone.
What do you think? Have you ever gotten yourself worked up over something silly? How often do you need to continue to remind yourself about what should constitute a priority? How do you let go of things that need not to be a priority?
I’ve decided to link up with Dumb Mom at Parenting by Dummies for her Wordful Wednesdays.
(Because, as apparent above, I had a lot to say about my recent life lesson!)
Check out her Wordful Wednesday post and while you’re there, visit some other great “wordful” bloggers!)