Asking for Help

I need your help.
Yet, I’m not very good at asking for help.

In fact, most of the time occasionally, when people do try to help me, I may go as far as to take offense.

I know this is an issue, but my problem is that I want to believe that I can do it all.

When in reality…

I can’t.

And I know that I can’t. I just don’t always want to admit it.
And lately…
I have needed a lot of help.

What I Do

Maybe I should have instead titled the subhead above: What I don’t do…

  • I don’t clean the house as much as I should.
  • I don’t make dinner as much as I should.
  • And I definitely don’t sleep in.

In order to pursue things that I want to do, these are things I have given up on for the moment.

I love being a mother and I love being creative.

I used to feel like I had to choose between the two of them. Yet I’ve begun to realize (for me personally) that I am a much better mother when I allow myself to be creative, and I am much better at being creative, when I give myself time to “work out” my creative muscles.

So to expand these creative muscles and focus on parenting, I don’t just blog here at On-the-Go Momma, teach graphic design to college students and act as a chauffeur to my children in order to drive them to the ridiculous amounts of activities they participate in. I also work part time from my home office for the National Association of Mothers’ Centers (NAMC) – a non profit organization that strives to honor what we do as parents and works at helping moms everywhere see that their contribution as a mother is valued.

Ultimately, through the NAMC, I’ve found a way I could pursue all my passions simultaneously. Except in doing all this, it also requires that I better learn how to ask for help doing the things I can’t always prioritize (like cleaning, cooking, and sleeping!).

What I do – Take two

What do I do for the NAMC?

  1. I coordinate and write a weekly blog article for Mothers Central – the NAMC parenting blog. (I put a lot of heart and soul into these posts… if you haven’t read any of my blog posts there you can find a list of my favorites here, or visit the blog directly.)
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  2. I also help to coordinate and support other local Mothers’ Center leaders throughout the nation. The NAMC has physical “Mothers’ Centers” which act as parenting groups that help provide parents with support, camaraderie and family activities. Before I was an NAMC staff member I was – and still am – a member of my local Mothers Center.

Yet the NAMC is much bigger then just individual centers.

The NAMC strives to teach empathy and provide resources for families, work life, postpartum and so much more. They also advocate for parents’ and caregivers’ rights. I feel incredibly fortunate to be able to do this rewarding job and to work for an organization that values and prioritizes parenting and motherhood.

Being a local center member and a staff member for the NAMC has taught me many things throughout the years. But the most important thing it continues to teach me is:

That asking for help as a mother – is Okay. Period.

My plea for help.

On Saturday, May 5th, 2012 the NAMC will be holding their 3rd Annual Mile for Mothers’ Walk on the Long Beach Boardwalk in New York to help support their 35-year-old non-profit organization. If you live in the Long Beach, New York area you can physically support their cause by joining the walk.

But I live in Ohio, and (like most of my readers) I can’t physically be there, yet I still want to help. So, I am breaking out of my comfort zone by asking for your help.

I’ve decided to start a virtual Mile for Mothers walk team. By choosing to donate as little or as much as you financially can, you can help support the NAMC and also help us to support mothers’ journeys everywhere – wherever their walk through motherhood takes them.

What’s more, if you chose to make a donation all donations are tax deductible and any donation over $35 automatically makes you eligible for a year membership to the NAMC – which comes with a lot of tangible benefits!

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Asking for help, is not something I am good at. Yet, if there is one thing I have learned as a parent, a creative individual and as a staff member with the National Association of Mother Centers, sometimes…

You just have to suck it up and ask.

I may not be very good at cleaning the house, cooking for my family, or sleeping in… but I am pretty good at being a mother and also at knowing my own needs and not ignoring them. Because there are times when we all…

Just. Need. Help.
Can you help?

Comment and Consider Donating: How do you ask for help? Do you find it as challenging as I do sometimes? I would love your support financially, yet I would also appreciate your support in the form of a comment.

Today I am linking up with another great supporter of Women: Just Be Enough.

Just.Be.Enough. has a mission to empower, inspire, and remind women, parents
and children that the time has come to celebrate ourselves.

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16 Responses to Asking for Help

  1. Tatum says:

    Oh Kate, did I ever relate to this one!

    I HATE (and hate is a bad word in our house!) to ask for help. For the same reason you do, I don’t want to admit I can’t do it all. I know I can’t, but knowing it and admitting it are two totally different things.

    Great post as always!

    • Kate says:

      I am really trying to get better at it, but I still really struggle. I work so hard to not take on more then I can do (that way I don’t have to ask for help) but it always seems like I am still struggling. I am definitely a work in progress when it comes to asking for help!

  2. Christine @ Quasi Agitato
    Twitter: csiracusa
    says:

    My husband grew up in Long Beach!
    Sounds like a great event for a great organization. Will coordinate my schedule and see how I can help.
    Christine @ Quasi Agitato recently posted..Overheard in the Playroom

    • Kate says:

      Wonderful Christine! Please let me know if you have any further questions. I love how the internet can connect me with so many others across the country (and the world!). Amazing!

  3. Px Smith says:

    I relate. Flylady has been my friend when I choose (which is not as often as I should). That daily stuff can be soo hard. She is worth checking out.
    Px Smith recently posted..Fighting the Overwhelmingness

  4. Susi says:

    I’m the same way when it comes to asking for help. i very rarely do it and when i do I have to stop myself from interfering and not doing it over because it’s not exactly how I would have done it!!! It sounds like such a wonderful organization. I checked out the website yesterday. I will definitely try to help!

    • Kate says:

      Thanks Susi! Let me know if you have any questions about the NAMC and their non-profit status or purpose. I was so happy that one of our staff members connected with your post and used it as a “Staff Pick.” I love being able to introduce our staff members to new blogs and then in turn introduce our Mothers Center readers to new blogs!

      P.S. If you donate $35 not only is it a tax deductible donation but you also get a years membership to the NAMC. Also, right now we are looking for guest post from our members only (more info here: http://www.motherscenter.org/blog/guest-post-submission/ ) And I would love to feature you as a guest post if you were a member! It really is a wonderful non-profit org 🙂

  5. Kate – I love that you’re doing this. I will definitely donate!
    Missy | The Literal Mom recently posted..Literal Mom Monday – Mercy, revisited

  6. I suck at asking for help. Must get better at that. This sounds like a fantastic organization. I’ll try to help!
    Cam | Bibs & Baubles recently posted..One Step Closer

    • Kate says:

      Thanks! I’m fairly certain that asking for help will never come easy for me 🙂 Let me know if you have any questions regarding the National Association of Mothers’ Center. It is a wonderful non-profit organization!

  7. Stesha
    Twitter: SteshaSims
    says:

    I am the queen of not asking for help which usually bites me in the bum later on. Especially when I’m stressed to the max and really need help. People think I’m kidding which in turns infuriates me… but it’s really my own fault. I have to learn to let go sometimes.

    Hugs and Mocha,
    Stesha
    Stesha recently posted..Nesting

    • Kate says:

      Learning to let go and asking for help do tend to go hand in hand don’t they? Ugh. I have “letting go” issues too – although I have been better in control of these lately. I’ve found that at some point, nearly everything needs to be let go of… so I am working (key work working!) at doing it more gracefully! 😉

  8. Going to donate now!

    PS – I stink at asking for help, but I’m learning that we just HAVE to sometimes. And it’s good to ask; people like to help!
    Missy @ Wonder, Friend recently posted..My Son, The Hip Hop Mogul in the Making

    • Kate says:

      Thank you Missy! THANK YOU. It will continue to be hard for me to ask for help, I know it! That is why I am so picky about what I ask for help with – and the NAMC is such a great non-profit orginization.

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