“Begin challenging your own assumptions.
Your assumptions are your windows on the world.
Scrub them off every once in awhile, or the light won’t come in.”
~ Alan Alda
Do you ever find yourself assuming you know exactly who someone is, only to later realize that there is a whole different side to that person that you never knew?
I’m curious, how well do you think you know me? When you read my blog, when I share my insights and my day-to-day realizations and irritations with you, what do you see?
I read many-a-blog (OK, way too many-a-blog!) and often I find myself making assumptions based on my readings about who these bloggers are, what their lives are like, and how they survive their days.
I make these assumptions right up until…
I throw those same thoughts back at myself and wonder how people see me.
A couple weeks ago I was sitting at my church’s Sunday service that was being lead, not by our typical church leadership, but instead by the youth of the congregation. These youth were confirmands who, for one Sunday, took over our worship hour to share their lessons and reflections.
What could 8th graders possibly reflect on in their relatively short life on this earth? Well, I’ll admit that I was astonished by how much I could relate to what they spoke of and shared.
Many of the youth who presented that day I didn’t know very well. Yet after that service I felt I got to know them – not completely – but just a little bit more, in only one hour of their time reading, reflecting and leading our congregation.
And yes, in that short hour service, I probably made some assumptions about them.
I realize these days I do a lot of reflecting myself. In fact, my blog is really just one big collection of my reflections. And what I share (just like these confirmands) isn’t the complete me – yet it is a part of me.
Wiping Off Our Windows to Let More Light Through
So maybe you see me as a television star (LOL) or as an education advocate.
Or maybe you see me as mentally unstable since I do tend to have conversations with myself and have been also know as the Wicked Witch of the East.
However you see me, however you know me (in real life, online or maybe both these ways), what I want you most to know is:
What you read about me here IS real.
What you know about me in person IS ALSO real.
Likewise, realize that:
What you read about me here is not the complete me.
And what you know about me in person is also not the complete me.
Because I blog: I get to share in written word and photos some of the things I don’t always get to share in person.
Because I take the time to live a life outside of blogging: I get to share a part of me that may only be visible when I’m physically present.
I am a blogger. But I am also a parent, a teacher, a wife, a friend, a daughter and so much more. And in each one of these aspects I share my life differently.
Through my reflections in blogging (and also by watching the bravery of the confirmands as they reflected and stepped out of their comfort zones to lead a Sunday Service) I’ve come to realize that it takes a lot of courage to put yourself (and your reflections) out there – both in person and online. And in putting yourself out there, people are always going to make assumptions.
Yet sometimes we all need to remember…
To keep on challenging our own assumptions by
“scrubbing our windows off and letting a little more light in.”
The only person you will ever completely know is yourself. And, unless you continue to “wipe your windows,” you just may miss out on a lot of ever-evolving, ever-changing people in your own life.
Because aren’t we ALL in constant change?
Leave a Comment. Do you ever find yourself assuming you know exactly who someone is only to later realize that there is a whole different side to that person that you never knew? Do you ever really know someone completely?
This week I am linking up with Bianca at Bits of Bee for her Quotable Bits Link-up.
(Which is quickly become one of my favorite spots to link up with 🙂 Thanks Bianca!)