Forgetting and Remembering

I remember the day like it was yesterday. It began at 5:30 a.m. with work. When the clock struck seven I promptly paused my morning’s efforts and then proceeded to:

  • Wake up three kids and get them ready for their day.
  • Help my daughter finish her Halloween costume.
  • Facilitate piano practice, music homework and spelling words.
  • Feed three kids and get two of them off to school.
  • Buy (and wrap) 6 gifts.
  • Finish three loads of laundry.
  • Pick up my husband’s eye prescription while simultaneously scheduling my daughter’s eye appointment.

Eventually, later that afternoon, I finished the work I had begun that morning in my office.

I had successfully accomplished quite a lot in what was barely half my day, yet all my successes were immediately discarded at 3 p.m. when…

The phone rang and the caller ID indicated it was my daughter’s orthodontist office.

I had forgotten my daughter’s appointment that afternoon.

In that moment, every important task I had completed in my day meant nothing, and I was left feeling like a failure. How quickly a day can change when you allow it to be defined by one mistake.

I fought back tears of frustration.

In hindsight it seems like such a silly thing to get so upset about, yet for some reason I let myself subconsciously choose to let one forgetful mistake consume the rest of my day.

I wanted so badly to plead my case to the office receptionist, to prove to her that I didn’t normally forget! (Even though I do forget more than I like.) I wished I could make it emphatically clear to her how difficult keeping track of a family of five’s busy schedule can be. And I REALLY wanted to ensure her (and myself) that my household was not as crazy and chaotic as it sounded.

However… I didn’t.

Instead I silently suffered and proceeded to re-schedule the appointment for the next day.


The following morning I again began my day at 5:30 and again carried out our busy morning routine.

Once all three kids were at school, I ran some morning errands, proceeded to a meeting, and afterwards raced to pick up my youngest from preschool with just enough time to pick up my oldest for her reschedule orthodontist appointment.

My back-to-back busy morning was a direct consequence of yesterday’s forgetfulness.

Driving to the appointment I found myself contemplating the “walk of shame” I would take entering the orthodontist office for our rescheduled appointment. And that was when I realized something… I had two options:

a.) Walk into the office with my guilt-stricken head hung low while offering profuse apologies to help further explain yesterday’s failure.


b.) Walk in with my head held high, give myself “a pass” and recognize that I could not possibly be the only busy parent who had mistakenly forgotten their child’s appointment.

I remembered that I had a choice.

And I decided to choose the latter. With a forced smile I entered the office and allowed myself to let go of my oversight. I wish I would have remember that choice the day before.

Leave a comment: Do you ever allow a simple mistake to weigh too heavily on your day?

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6 Responses to Forgetting and Remembering

  1. Tatum says:

    Sadly, yes. More so because I dislike being reminded that I’m not superwoman!

    Though it’s a constant struggle, I keep trying to remind myself that the only person who expects me to be perfect is me 🙁

    • Kate F. says:

      You ARE superwoman! 🙂 However, even superwoman needs a break sometimes! (I notice that the forgetfulness comes with having too much on my plate… you???)

  2. Susi says:

    Kate, I feel the same way when I forget an appointment. With us it’s most likely middle daughter’s eye dr appointments as she has to go about every three months and sometimes I just truly forget!!! I try not to let it get to me!!!

    • Kate F. says:

      I knew it couldn’t be just me… Next time you forget, stop back over here so that I can remind you to not let it ruin your day! 🙂

  3. Galit Breen
    Twitter: GalitBreen

    Oh I love this, girl.

    We’ve all been there, and you’re so very right – perception is reality, whatever we focus on becomes our truth.

    So, so wise!

    {And le sigh – I forget more often than I like, too!}

    • Kate F. says:

      Keeping focus can definitely become and issue… or should I say keeping focus on what really matters?

      Thanks for stopping by Galit!

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