The Busy, On-the-Go Momma’s Guide to Everyday Facebook Frustrations

3 Tips to help the Everyday Facebook User

Lately I feel as though I’ve been missing things on Facebook. Little things here and there.

And what I’ve learned through a little research is that as the popularity of Facebook grows, Facebook (the company) is trying to help you “better enjoy the clutter” of friends you accumulate by filtering your news feed and not always including every status update of all your friends.

Basically, Facebook filters out the updates it “thinks” you don’t care to see as a way to hopefully provide you with more relevant information.

Here’s the thing – I do not take “like-ing” lightly. If I except a friend request, or “like” a page, it is because I want to keep up with that friend or that community. So I decided to take things into my own hands in order to get a better grip on what I’m seeing when I open Facebook.

Here are three things that I’ve done to help ensure I see more of the posts I want to see (not only the ones Facebook “thinks” I want to see).

Tip #1: Establish “Close Friends”

If there is someone I want to make SURE I know every time they post and update, I always mark them as a “Close Friend*.”

To add someone as a “Close Friend” on Facebook you hover your cursor over their name on your news feed (or go directly to their Facebook Timeline Page and hover over the name there) and then hover over the Friends Button and click on “Close Friends.”

Add a Close Friend in Facebook

You will then be notified every time they post and update to Facebook according to your notification settings for close friends.

NOTE: I have my notification option for “Close Friends” set to “On Facebook.” This setting means that Facebook shows me a red notification alert when my “Close Friends” post. Your setting can also be set to email you. To change these setting go to: Account Settings > Notifications > Close Friends Activity

You can also see all your close friends actions on Facebook by visiting the “Close Friends” List.

Tip #2: Create Lists

Lists are the next best way to see my Facebook friends and Fan Pages that I follow BUT who I don’t mark as “Close Friends” (I don’t mark them as “Close Friends” because I don’t want a notification every time they post).

OK. Important information here:

a.  Facebook already has smart lists set up for you (such as your “Close Friends” list).
b.  You can make your own lists of friends that you always want to see.
c.  NEW: You can also add “INTEREST” Lists for Fan Pages you always want to see.

a. Facebook Smart Lists

You can start using Facebook lists NOW just by visiting the smart lists Facebook has alread built for you. Smart lists are updated automatically based on info you have in common with select friends, like a school, job or city.

You’ll find these lists by looking to the left of your Facebook News Feed under the subhead “FRIENDS.”

Facebook Friends Lists

b. Personal Facebook Lists

In addition to these automatic lists, I have created my own set of lists to further help me “find” the people I want to see.

To create you own lists: Hover over the “FRIENDS” subhead until you see “MORE” (see photo above) which will allow to look at all of your “FRIENDS” lists. Once there, click “Create List.”

To add friends to a list you create:

  • Hover over their friend button (see graphic under Tip #1) and click “Add to List” and then select the list you want to add them to.


  • Go to your full “FRIENDS” list (by clicking “MORE” next to friends subhead), then click on the list you want to add people to. On the right hand side of the page under the subhead “On This List” (see graphic below) you will see an area that you can type in any friends name or any page you would like to add to the list. When you start typing the name, it will automatically find your friends and the pages you like with that name and allow you to select them (just as if you were “tagging” someone).

Voila! Now every time you click on your new list (under the friends subhead) all you will see in your news feed are the friends you have added to that particular list!

NOTE: One can have TONS of lists! However, Facebook will only show you a couple of them listed under the “friends” subhead. In order to see the rest of your “friends” lists you have to hit the “more” button.

c. Interest Lists*

I see Interest Lists as the easiest way to keep track of pages. I currently have three interest lists set up: 1.) Bloggers on Facebook 2.) Local News and 3.) Organizations I am involved with.

If you “like” a fan page and you want to continue to make sure you see what that page has to say, add it to an interest list. You can find your interest lists located to the left of your Facebook News Feed.

To create your own Interest Lists: click “Add Interests…” (see image above) and follow the prompts. You will select the fan pages and friends you already have to include within the interest list and then name the list.

Every time you “like” a new fan page you have an option to add them to an “INTEREST” List just like you have the option to add friends to you “FRIENDS” Lists.

Tip #3: Pick your Favorites

There are certain lists I’ve created that I like to look at more often then others. (For example: I have an “INTEREST” list that I use often named “Bloggers on FB” set up for all the blogs that I follow with Facebook pages.)

In order to make visiting any lists and fan pages easier, I have learned to add certain lists and pages to my “FAVORITES” area.

The “FAVORITES” area is located right under your own profile name on your newsfeed. This is where you’ll also find your Messages and Events tabs listed.

You can add your favorite lists AND your favorite pages (like On-the-Go Momma!) to this area so they are always immediately accessible (See above image: I have my own fan page listed as a favorite along with my lists I check the most including my Bloggers list.)

To add a “FRIENDS” or “INTEREST” Lists to your Favorites: Hover over the list you want to add to your favorites until the pencil shows up to the left of the list name. Click the pencil and you should see the option to add it to your favorites.

Add a Facebook List to Favorites

To add a Fan Page to your Favorites: Go to the actual Fan Page and then click on the arrow next to Message (see image below) and then click “Add to My Page’s Favorites.

Add a Facebook Fan Page to Favorites

These are my solutions. These are the tips and tricks I use most so that I am not missing as many status updates as I used to. What are yours?

Leave a Comment: Do you feel like you are missing things on Facebook? What tips do you have that help you “miss less” on Facebook?


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3 Responses to The Busy, On-the-Go Momma’s Guide to Everyday Facebook Frustrations

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  2. Elenea says:

    Great tips–and so true in that I am seeing less and less of certain people or pages. I definitely need to devote some time to making lists. Ughhhh…

    • Kate F. says:

      As long as you remember to use the list feature, it’s great. I’ve found that adding some of my lists to my “favorites” area helps substantially to remind me to check them (especially the bloggers list I created). I also use my News list a LOT. It is a great way to catch up on the news highlights since we no longer receive a paper copy of our local newspaper.

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